Tuesday, August 10, 2010

ripples in the pond

The past is the past. Is it better to leave it behind us? Some say that when you turn your back on who you were, you will never become who you are suppose to be.
I recently had a discussion with a dear friend of mine about the darkness in our past. There are so many people out there who are hurting. Sometimes the things that hurt us become so ingrained in our souls that nothing is the same ever again. Sometimes we perpetuate the hurt, and our future doesn't stand a chance.
The danger of forgetting our past lies in that our subconscious never forgets. Our subconscious is like the hard drive of a super computer. We have been programming the operating system for many lifetimes. When something happens to us, good or bad, we create a new rule for our subconscious and our subconscious follows it perfectly. The only way to change that rule is to go back and find the original code and reprogram it.
If we burn our hands on the stove, we remember not to touch a hot stove again. However, if we came to the wrong conclusion and made the rule "never touch a stove again" or if we remember to "never touch food" again, then what happens? Sometimes we come to the wrong conclusions and sometimes we forget about the incidents that created the "rule" in the first place.
Imagine all the things we have learned along the way. What lasting effects do they have upon us? What if, at a very young age, someone you love and trust tried to hurt you? How any ripples of effect do you think that has had upon your future ability to trust people?
I have issues. I am sure that you do too. In some way, I am sure that all of us do. So the next time that something bad happens, the next time that you react in an unexplainable fashion, try to think back and see where and when you created the rule.
The next time someone is cruel to you, instead of creating a new rule of "don't trust anyone", realize that that person has been hurt before and don't perpetuate the ripples in the pond.

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